“May your trails be crooked, winding, lonesome, dangerous, leading to the most amazing view.” -Edward Abbey
The beautiful thing about pain is that we all experience it. No one is immune from set backs. No one lives a life without some sort of fray in their rope. Not a single person wakes up everyday and goes through every motion according to plan. Thank God that’s the case.
When I look back on the most cherished things in my life, very few of them were intended. And NONE of them look exactly the way they did in my mind’s eye. My parents wanted to build a house in the country once they saved enough money. In the meantime, when my brother and I were young, they bought a too-small gray craftsman on 5th street where my mom still lives. Plans changed, circumstances changed, our family changed, and because the plans didn’t work out the way they thought they would, we have a home (and the world’s best porch swing) that I adore.
I never thought I would go to school in California, or work in D.C., or have a job right out of college that allows me to be close to my family and live in an amazing town. I never thought I would end up handing my heart to a goofy guy with shaggy hair who decided to chat me up because he heard about my political views. The best things in my life have been turn of the moment surprises that strayed from the things I thought I would have and planned for. And the process of finding all of these wonderful things was not free from set backs. Looking back, I think it’s easy to forget about the stress and the tears and the fear that brought me to all of those places.
Hiccups and set backs happen, but each of us has the ability to turn our bad days to good. It’s a process I’m still working on… slowly though, I hope I will be able to remind myself that all the work and stress and hiccups are worth it when I will inevitably come across something so much better than what I thought I was heading for.
At the risk of sounding like a fortune cookie… Just be you, feel everything, and treat each step (whether it hugs you or hurts you) like a necessary pixel in the big picture. And when you look back, try to remember that the pain you felt helped make the thing you are grateful for.
Take it cheesy. I mean easy… :)